when you give your word to pay for something for your kids, you are committed. [myself, i feel expensive weddings ae an enourmous waste of money] but i might not go to the wedding. if she has decided to have him walk her, that is her choice.[i would suspect that the "dad" has been worming his way back into her good graces. its what toxic parents do.] the mom should go. but i would not go. pay what you promised. by pass on the second bannana role.